My Journal Notes

I found this in my journal, when my cancer journey with my daughter was in full swing. I thought I would share it. Maybe it will help you in some way if you're struggling with something.

How to make a stronger You, physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Finding balance is key; it's all connected. The only way to survive this health care issue is to start loving yourself. We need to stop trying to take the easy way out and change our life styles. Start eating right, and exercising! Meditate and be courteous to others. Show love and compassion at every single thought and meeting. (This was very hard for me, as I’ve stated in my book “Tara’s Choice”, I blamed others for my fate.

1. Overcome negative beliefs that you have about yourself. Whether it's from childhood, negative words from loved ones, or fears you may have buried deep inside. Use positive affirmations to free yourself from these negative thoughts and feelings.
2. Focus on the positives in your life. Be thankful for all the good things, even when you feel things may be bad. Change your perception. Trust your intuition, let go of worry and self-doubt. Acknowledge any effort you are making in the progression toward happiness. Misery loves company so don't dwell in negative thoughts.
3. Speak and think only positive things. Use positive affirmations. What you think, will be. What you say, will be. Discover how powerful manifestations can be. Feelings like love and forgiveness can break through negative feelings almost instantly. Smiling is also a positive action that makes difficulties seem easier to handle.
4. Take care of yourself; body (with nutrition and exercise. See the Good Eats link here http://www.onetarahill.com/424761340 ) mind (positive affirmations and positive thinking; keep your mind busy with reading and hobbies) and soul (nurturing your relationship with Allah, God, or the higher power you believe in). Make conscious decisions to speak and think better things about your life. Use earthing and meditation for all of these.

Learning self-love is probably one of the hardest things most people will have to accomplish. We are our own worst enemy as the saying goes and it is quite real. We are always harder on ourselves. We need to build up our self-esteem. Louise Hay suggests standing in front of a mirror, look directly into your own eyes, and say "I love you". Repeat positive things about yourself, like "I like your smile. I love your eyes. I love all of your talents." We become so ingrained to negative beliefs about ourselves, that when we try to make this switch, our brain tells us this is bad. Almost like loving ourselves is being confused with conceit. To begin this process, we should expect good things like being generally happy and wanting to lead a fulfilled life, and being successful. Make this a conscious decision. We need to have the universe, God, or source or whatever you want to refer to it as, send us good manifestations and the easiest, fastest way to do this is with feelings of happiness and thankfulness.